Why Always Me?

In our line of work we get the question a lot from different people.
It has many forms it could be phrased like this: "Why do I always get a boy friend that beats me?" or "Why am I always scammed on a dating website?"
"I Mean, There are more than 519 members on the site and I get scammed. Then I go to another website and get scammed there too... why is that?"

Why is it that we seem to attract a certain type of person into our lives?

There are many reasons for that and hashing out all the details will take a lot of time and effort. Let's just look at some of the things you can do to protect yourself.
Some of the reasons include:
  1. Low self esteem
  2. Birds of feather flock together.
  3. Trauma that happened to you. (Someone else's sin)
  4. Sin in your life.
  5. Glory of Elohim 
Let's use the scammed person as an example, with each of the above "reasons".
Why do they get scammed?
  1. They might have low self esteem and no boundaries. Trusting people too easily and then others take advantage of them. Predators look for victims that are easy and they just fit that pattern. Having trouble saying no to people.
  2. People with low integrity get together to rob a bank. Later they turn on each other because that is just what people with low integrity do. If you have low integrity you tend to hang around others with low integrity. 
  3. When you where little they broke into your parents house and you still make pictures of how you and your parents and other people felt. (Or maybe you recall smells or things you heard back then) You still think about it and then it shows up in your life again and again. You might have trouble letting go or forgiving the person that harmed you. You might still want revenge and you give time and energy to that event.
  4. Sin is very similar to #2 above. They might have stolen money (or something else) themselves and this is just how the Creator balances the scales. An eye for an eye if you wish.
  5. The Creator might want to show you His Glory. We all heard stories of a robbery and then how the robbers got caught miraculously, and the insuarnce gave them better things than the ones they lost. See also Joh 9:2-3  And his disciples asked him, saying, Master, who did sin, this man, or his parents, that he was born blind?  (3)  Yahushua answered, Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents: but that the works of Elohim should be made manifest in him.
As you can see there is not just a one size fits all reason and/or solution. We all have different lives and are unique. Now you are probably wondering how do I stop it?

There are so many books written about it that I will not attempt another one. The easiest for me is to start with myself and focus on the things I can do about it. Is it sin? What sin? Should I repent? and other questions like that.

If you are new to this, it is not necessary that you ask someone that understand these things to pray and work with you to find a solution. You could figure it out on your own, but sometimes it helps having a fresh set of eyes looking at a situation.

If you would like more information about it please contact Jannie.